you know you love me,

stand up for yourself.

2009-11-05T06:07:00.000-08:00

Your peers are people the same as you in age and status, like friends in your street or people in your year at school. Peer pressure's when you do something because they’ve persuaded you to, or because everyone else is doing it and you're afraid you'll lose your friends if you don't join in.

Is it a bad thing?

You can learn a lot from your peers. They can help you develop your talents and give you support and motivation to succeed.

On the other hand, people often end up doing stuff that’s bad for them because of the influence of peer pressure, like smoking, missing school or shoplifting.

Why do people give in to peer pressure?

Most people like to fit in and it’s hard being the only one doing something different.

Sometimes people are worried they’ll be picked on if they don’t go with the crowd, or they'll lose their group/gang of friends.

Other times people do stuff because they think their friends will like them more, or because their mates are doing it, so it seems normal.

How should I deal with peer pressure?

You'll experience peer pressure all through life, so it will help if you can learn to deal with it now.

Choose your friends wisely. Focus on developing firm friendships with people with the same values and ideas as you have. Even having one friend who’ll back you up when you want to go against the group will really help.

Be strong: always go with what you know is right. Good friends respect your wishes and individuality. Stand up for what you believe in and you’ll respect yourself more too

fall in love.

2009-11-04T08:03:00.000-08:00

Don’t hang around forever waiting for your future bf to realise that you’re the girl of his dreams. Get real, get confident and go get him.

Take action

You’ve spent weeks eyeing him up across the school canteen and have discussed his every move with your mates. But we all know that boys can be a bit crap when it comes to making the first move, so why not take matters into your own hands? Remember - you won’t get any action til you take some action

Repeat after me...

Most boys would love a girl to make the first move (cowards!) so let that be your mantra on the big day.

Pick a time when he’s on his own - then you’ll have his undivided attention without his mates sniggering in the background.

Be yourself. Don’t jump in with anything too heavy. And don’t try any cheesy lines - they’re bound to come across as just plain cringey.

‘Have you been working out?’

Once you've got him alone and have started working your chat-up charm, you need to make your intentions clear (assuming you've resisted the urge to go straight in for a snog).

Boys go just as gooey for compliments as we do, so massage his ego with some heart-felt compliments.

If he says no

Don’t let fear of rejection put you off.

If he knocks you back it could be for all kinds of reasons: he’s too shy, he’s gay, he’s already got a girlfriend or maybe his mate fancies you (hmm, actually his mate is quite fit). Whatever the reason, he’ll be so flattered that you asked he’ll probably let you down very gently.

And when you’ve done it once, you’ll realise that it’s not really as big and scary an ordeal as you thought it was. So, what are you waiting for? Get out there

kissing with confidence,

2008-12-15T04:08:00.000-08:00

Kissing with Confidence
You may feel you’ve seen enough tv tongue action to get a GCSE in snogging. But kissing someone for the first time can be pretty darn nerve-wracking. The main thing to remember is that kissing is natural - you’ll be amazed how your instincts take over.

Mwah!
First of all, make sure he knows what’s coming. You don’t want to end up snogging his ear. Once he knows he’s about to get lucky, lean towards him and tilt your head (so you don’t squish noses). Pout your lips, parting them slightly as you press against his lips. Purse and release your lips, without breaking contact with his, occasionally shifting position so it doesn’t get boring. The first time you kiss, keep it short - less than a minute. Slow down the motion of your lips and finish with a light peck.

We don’t learn this kind of French at school
When you’ve got used to his kissing techniques, try adding tongues. Your mum might call this a French kiss, but probably best to avoid doing this after a garlic-heavy lunch, unless you’re both as whiffy as each other. In either case, having minty fresh breath will make it a sexier experience for you both.

Start by kissing normally, then gently slide your tongue into his mouth. Push your tongue part way in, using slow, gentle movements. Practice makes perfect. And you can always claim you’re doing your French homework.

Advanced snogging success
Now try spicing up your technique. Twist your tongue around his, run your tongue lightly along his teeth, over the roof of his mouth and across the tip of his tongue. Dental check-ups aren’t sexy, so keep the probing brief and light.
And creative kissing isn’t just about snogging. Kiss his cheeks and his nose, even his forehead. Pecks still have their place, so pucker up at regular intervals. Before you know it, you’ll be snogging with confidence. Oi you two, get a room!

getting over your ex.

2008-12-14T06:44:00.001-08:00

Release the demons
Before you can move on, you need to let all those pent-up feelings out. It’s totally normal to feel sad, upset, disappointed, lonely and even downright furious!
Talk to someone you trust and bawl your eyes out. Punch your pillow and deface his photo if it makes you feel better: whatever it takes to squeeze out all that hurt you’ve been holding on to. If you keep your feelings inside, they’ll haunt you forever.

Leave the past behind
Now you need to close an imaginary door to stop those feelings creeping back in. Start by removing everything that reminds you of him. Change your room around so it looks different than it was when you were together.
List the reasons you’re better off without him and remember to include all his ugly points. Now make a list of the things you want from a boyfriend in the future. You’ll soon see that the past is best left behind you, while the future has much better things in store.

Day by Day
The ghost of your relationship will lurk for a while, so it’s important to stay strong everyday. Stop asking if he called when you were out. No more checking your emails obsessively and whatever you do, don’t be tempted to call or text him.
You also need to banish him from your thoughts, so no more dreaming about getting back together when you go to bed at night! This is the hardest part, but hang in there and you’ll get through it.

Life after your ex
An experience like this will change you, and that’s good because you’ve learnt from it and you’re ready to move on as a new, improved person.
This is an excellent time to reorganise your life and set some new goals. Stop looking back and start looking forward. Your past passion is dead, let it rest in peace!

sex workers,

2008-12-11T17:57:00.000-08:00

"Pretty Woman" it isn't. A sex worker's life is filled with violence from clients and police; with discrimination and scorn from the general public; with drug addiction, homelessness and lack of health services.

And by utilizing a "revolving door" approach where sex workers (the majority of them women) are incarcerated time and again but never offered the economic, psychological and social services they need, the criminal justice system only exacerbates the problem and violates the civil and human rights of sex workers in the process.

These are some of the conclusions of a just-released study by the Sex Workers Project, an initiative of the Urban Justice Center in New York City. The study followed female, male and transgender street sex workers in New York City, and analyzed specifically how they have been affected by the city's infamous Zero Tolerance approach to law enforcement.

Meanwhile similar results – rampant violence, harassment, substance abuse, health and housing problems – were documented in a Chicago study released in 2001 by the Center for Impact Research. That study found 1,800 to 4,000 girls and women are involved in on- or off- street prostitution activities in Chicago in any given year, along with about 11,500 people who trade sex for drugs. These numbers – comparable in other major cities – show that the mistreatment of sex workers is a significant national civil and human rights situation that affects thousands and thousands of women (and men) and by extension their children or other family members.

The CIR study showed that 21.4 percent of women working as escorts had been raped 10 times or more, with comparable rates for other types of sex work. Meanwhile the rapes, beatings and other abuses male and female sex workers suffer are rarely prosecuted.

“Crimes against prostitutes usually go unpunished,” says the New York study, authored by Juhu Thukral. “There is a tacit acceptance of this form of violence, usually committed against women. The overwhelming majority of sex workers did not go to police after they experienced violent incidents. Others who attempted to report violent crimes were told by police that their complaints would not be accepted, that this is what they should expect, that they deserve all that they get.”

The results of the Chicago and New York studies mirror situations reported in anecdotes and quantitative studies done in other urban areas around the country. The treatment of sex workers by police, the courts and their clients – as well as the general population – should be seen as a violation of the civil liberties and human rights of these women, and on a larger scale, a collective violation of our society as a whole.

"The police are getting away with murder," said Louise Lofton, a former sex worker in Chicago who said police would often arrest her just for being on a certain corner or stretch of street. "Maybe she was just trying to go to the store. Sometimes you're trying to leave to go somewhere but you know if you go down this street they'll get you."

On a collective level, the mistreatment of female sex workers by police, johns and society represents a vicious form of sexism and misogyny. Sex workers’ customers, the vast majority of whom are men, may be vilified by their spouses or communities when it is discovered that they regularly visit or have visited sex workers, but this behavior is treated as an individual act, not a condemnation of the man’s entire existence.

Women, on the other hand, are treated as if sex work is not just their “job” or even their “crime,” but their entire existence. Police officers and judges don’t treat sex workers as women who have violated a law, they treat them as “prostitutes,” actually often referring to them in much cruder terms. Likewise for johns who see them only as bodies or specific body parts at that; and for the homeowners or angry wives who want them out of their neighborhoods, seeing them as eyesores, temptresses or carriers of disease rather than human beings.

This societal treatment of sex workers on the moral level is mirrored on the judicial level, where sex workers bear the brunt of the criminal justice system while johns usually get off relatively lightly. In 2002, the Chicago police department made 4,486 arrests for prostitution-related offenses. That included 953 john-related arrests and 67 arrests for pimping/pandering, so with the exception of some men arrested for male prostitution, women were arrested at about four times the rate men were.

In Chicago and many other cities, johns are usually charged with violating city ordinances rather than actual crimes. They will have to pay about $700 in fines and to recover their impounded cars, but the incident won’t go on their criminal record and if they’re lucky their wives and neighbors will never even find out. Women, meanwhile, will spend at least a night or two in jail and may end up with months-long sentences and felony charges on a third or fourth arrest.
Advocates and lawyers for prostitutes note that just like the johns’ cases, prostitutes’ cases would often be dropped – if they fought the charges. Proving prostitution or related charges like soliciting and trespassing is difficult, and in most cases the evidence is fairly flimsy. But women charged with prostitution rarely fight the charges. They are expected to show up in cattle-call fashion before the judge, plead guilty and go off with a relatively light sentence of time served or a brief stint in jail.

But many of these “light” sentences add up to a long and stigmatizing rap sheet that will haunt the woman for the rest of her life, as well as a home life constantly interrupted by jail sentences and the ripple effect that will have on her children, finances and other employment or goals.
After being put through the wringer a few times and learning how to play the game of serving their time and getting out with as little confrontation as possible, most women don’t even consider that fighting their charges is an option. And for those who do want to, it is hard to find a willing and affordable lawyer. Public defenders almost automatically plead guilty for their clients, and few lawyers, even those who regularly do pro bono social justice work, are willing or able to take on prostitutes’ cases for little or no pay.

Beside the philosophical and political implications of the mass violations of sex workers’ civil and human rights, their mistreatment carries concrete costs for the rest of society. The most obvious example of this is the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. If women are prevented from having easy access to health clinics by lack of funding and police harassment, as the New York study documents, it is only natural that they will be more likely to suffer from HIV and other serious sexually transmitted diseases that will not only wreak havoc on their own lives but also spread to others in their communities.

And a system that allows johns to rape and otherwise abuse sex workers without legal or societal retribution perpetuates violence against women as a whole. It shouldn’t be surprising that a large number of women in sex work were sexually abused as children.
Becoming a prostitute at age 14 felt almost natural to Chicago resident Brenda Myers, who now is one of the leaders of a group called Exodus that helps women leave sex work.
Growing up on the south side of Chicago, Myers used to see prostitutes outside her window all the time. Often, they looked glamorous and mysterious. When she found out what they were doing, it didn’t sound any worse to her than experiences that were being forced upon her already.

“I asked my grandmother what those women were doing,” she said. “She said, ‘They take their panties off for money.’ Well I was already being forced to take my panties off, and I wasn’t getting any money.” A 1995 study by the National Criminal Justice Reference Service (NCJRS) found that people who were sexually abused as children are a whopping 27.7 times as likely as others to be arrested for prostitution.

While many sex workers do see their work as empowering and feminist, the reality is that the vast majority of sex workers are doing it for the money, often to feed drug habits, often because they feel they have no other viable employment opportunities.
All of the respondents in the New York study listed finances as their reason for getting into sex work. The majority of respondents (22 of 30) also listed substance abuse as the reason for turning to sex work, and the Chicago study showed that almost all sex workers were substance abusers and almost all increased their use of alcohol and drugs while engaging in sex work, creating a vicious cycle where working to earn money to satisfy their habit only increased their habit.

Both the Chicago and New York studies offer recommendations for better ways for law enforcement and community institutions to deal with prostitution. The suggestions sound like common sense – offer sex workers meaningful supportive services, including job training, affordable housing, health care and counseling. Start treating sex workers like human beings with civil and human rights, rather than criminals. And don't forget to address the problem at the source: the portion of the customer base who are eager to pay to exploit and abuse sex workers.

"If it wasn't for men you wouldn't have prostitution," said Myers. "They think it's a joke, she's having a ball. No she isn't! They think they didn't do anything wrong – 'My wife is pregnant and I deserve to have my needs taken care of.' Well fuck your needs! And fuck the things you do to us, things that would have you arrested if you tried to do them to a date. Women need to be taught that their body isn’t an offering or a sacrifice."

female exhibitionist,

2008-12-10T19:57:00.000-08:00

recently i was blog surfing when i chanced upon some articles of two female exhibitionists, one being faith ong.

it was really really disturbing to see many many pictures of her exposing herself on the 13th level of some hdb flat,

please refer to http://thegutterpost.blogspot.com/2008/11/another-singaporean-exhibitionist-girl.html for all the pictures,

Anti- ahlian.

2008-12-09T09:39:00.000-08:00

hello (: please refer to http://aalteam.blogspot.com/ for this post,

apparantly, the anti-ahlian-team ( aalteam ) has been constantly criticising ahlians all over singapore, they have been gathering pictures of several people they feel are super ahlian and start criticising them which to me is more like a person attack.

personally, i don't discriminate against culture people, 'cause it's a free world and they are free to express themselves however they like, however, the members of the aal team do not have the same concept as i do,

and personally as a un-ahlian myself, i kind of feel offended by what they actually post, like for example the life of a ahlian.

copied from http://aalteam.blogspot.com/

The Daily Life of an Ah Lian.
(Age: 11-16)SCHOOL DAYS

After school, whip out handphones ASAP
Sms or calls laopo/jiejie/meimei/korkor/didi/laogong/uncle's daughter's friend's cousin's sister's newphew's uncle/ etc etc etc...
Or stare at the handphone screen for show
Or irritate people by their smsing
Go to the shopping centres, or Bugis.
Complain about their hair
Walk around complaining that they're fat
Eating food that'll make them fat
Annoying and freaking people out by their giggling outbursts
Freaking people out with the pontianak look
Go home late
Still smsing
curse and swear at people
curse and swear at life
May curse and swear at parentsor siblings
Get all EMO
complain on the phone
talk and talk and talk...
And sleep.
and sleep.
deeming themselves as xiiaozhuuzhuu

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now for my personal opinion,

i don't really think there is a problem with whipping out your phones asap after school, or visiting shopping centres after school, or eating forr that makes them fat ( actually almost everything you eat will make you fat, it's just a matter of whether you burn it of or not ), or like irritate people with their smsing? like they just sms, and it's like something everyone does, so i don't see a freaking reason how you can be irritated by it.

it feels like maybe the anti ah lian team are like a bunch of losers who are maybe nerds, goodytwoshoes and maybe just simply not pretty, and because if that they may have something against ah lians who may be like prettier than them.

it's just my opinion alright (:

increasing your number of blog viewers (:

2008-12-08T00:39:00.000-08:00

as a nuffnanger myself, everyday i constantly check in on my number of viewers statistics, 'cause i enjoy knowing how many people are actually interested in my blog posts (: and personally, with the help of some things i have discovered, i have managed to raise the number of unique viewers to my blog from 82 all the way to 594. (:

secret no 1.
you can try websites which help you advertise your blog to other blog readers and for this, i recommend Blog Explosion ,

secret no 2.
if you wonder how i managed to raise my number of unique visitors by 500+, it's because of the blog post i made on teenage porn stars, it is a very controversial topic, and what i have discovered is that more people are interested in such topics and thus they will bother to read your post, 'cause it gains their interest.

secret no 3.
upload your post on innit ( for glitterati nuffnangers ), 'cause it actually helps to promote that specific post and your whole blog

secret no 4.
when uploading the post on innit, have interesting titles and descriptions, so that they will encourage

gender discrimination,

2008-12-07T04:04:00.000-08:00

okay, i think this really sounds stupid, as many people have said that the reasoning of how boys are better the girls and gender discrimination has like died down decades ago, yet till this day i can still feel this discrimination running through my family,

i have an older brother, D. and since young it wasn't that hard to notice that my parents have always treated my brother better than they treated me, ( no it wasn't some biased thought of a small kid, they really made it very obvious ), like how i was always in the wrong for something he obviously did, or like how it was wrong of me to hit him after he had like dealt several blows to me even though it was an act of self-defence, and what's the worse, i can be the top in class/top in level, achieve outstanding results and he can be the worse student, constantly getting complains from teachers and flunking his papers, and when we're compared to one another through my parent's eyes, i was always not good enough for them. while he was always perfect.

like how would it feel when you realise you did exceptionally well in a subject, and you're just so excited to tell your parents to try to get some praises, and when you tell them, all they say to you is , " that's not good enough. ", hello (?) i tried, and i achieved something, and your dear son, he did nothing, and still he's better than me ?

you know how much it hurts, when you just don't seem to get approval from your parents, 'cause maybe it's a fact that their opinion of you is what really matters to you, yet they don't seem to care about anything about you. it honestly sucks, like how they claim that they're not discriminating against me when they obviously are.

clarifications,

2008-12-06T06:12:00.000-08:00

hello, regarding the post on teenage porn stars, you know even though i give such detail on what the girls do to remain in the industry, it doesn't mean that the only way i can get such information is by watching porn myself,

ever heard of something called wikipedia (?) or maybe youtubing and watching talk shows while gathering my facts from there,

personally i am super against anything about females not respecting themselves and their body, so why would i watch porn. and besides, i am underaged. so it's not legal for me to watch porn. tyvm.

teenage pornstars

2008-12-05T06:08:00.000-08:00

teenage porn stars are one of the people who disgust me the most, can you imagine a young girl appearing in adult porn films being gang banged or getting humilated by another guy. These young porn stars are women who are willing to degrade themselves to be humiliated and dehumanized.

indeed the guys in films treated these young girls without respect ( spits on them, slaps them, urinate on them )and after they are done with them girls have to go through a whole process ( agree to have double peneration or to drink the sperm of 12 guys ) to continue to remain in the industry.

sasha grey

Sasha grey is only 20 years old and has appeared in 129 adult sex videos,

she has done some of the most degrading acts in this industry such as drinking her own urine, licking a toilet seat, "ass to mouth" and many many other dehumanizing acts, indeed, she enjoys the pleasure of being humiliated and she does many more extreme sexual acts than any other teenage porn star.

she apparantly says that she refuses to do anything that has got to do with children or animals, but isn't performing acts like anal sex, getting gang banged and many many more horrible acts of sex as inhumane (?)

i'm just ashamed of how degrading some women have become.

xoxo.

littlemissC.

cassanova's

2008-12-04T22:09:00.000-08:00

this is based on my own past experience thats why it's like filled with a lot of anger.

my ex; mrA

steaded with him on 5dec'06, and it was only 17 days later that we broke up, why you might ask (?) he was just a major playboy, he was double steading with me,

he apologised so we got back together on 3fec'07, and we were like okay for about a month and finally it was our 1st month, so as a girlfriend i wanted to go out and spend time together that day, but he told me he was not free 'cause he needed to study and stuffs, so i went out with my gang, and guess what, i saw him hanging out with like another girl, yeahh, so i confronted him and he was like giving like stupid excuses like he wasn't the only one not being faithful, 'cause i was also flirting with guys behind his back and all that shit.

so we settled all the misunderstandings, and i thought we would still be together for some time and that his playboy character would tame down a little, but to my dissapointment, it only lasted for 1 week.

we went to a camp together, and his playboyness was back. and it was really the final straw, imagine your boyfriend and you best friend, missJ, and he was flirting with her in front of me. saying things like i can be your superman and protect you from all harm, and the worst part, he said ohh i'm single, it was never serious between me and littlemissC. and i was standing right there before both of them. and so we broke up with him then and there.

maybe i've got too many experiences with such playboys,

to such guys out there:

1. only stead with a girl if you truly love her, and please cherish the relationship, 'cause i can tell you how much a girl cherishes it and how much it breaks her heart to know that you're cheating on her

2. don't give stupid excuses if you do something wrong, honestly is still the best policy and you should just admit to mistakes that you've done.

3. when you promise a girl something, you should keep it.

4. even if you have to flirt with other girls, never do it in front of your girlfriend.

holy wanker

2008-12-04T18:45:00.000-08:00

i am officially grossed out,

so was making my way out of the house to post a letter, when i saw this 30yearold something person sitting at the playground mysteriously grining to himself. yes, i could hear softmoanings coming out from this guy.

his little dickie was sticking out of his pants ( okay it looked kind of pathetic ), and he was literally masturbating in front of everyone ( consisting of me, 4 small little kidos and a maid ), the small little kidos had like their eyes glued on to that guy's wiener, awwww, poor little kidos, have to have such nightmares of a disgusting man wanking. could it get any worse (?) yes, there was like a small 'pool' of some liquid thing that i would not want to know what it is on the bench.

okay, so i just walked off in disgust, and i swear that i am never ever going to sit on that freaking bench that the guy was wanking on. ewwww.

sarong party girls

2008-12-04T06:27:00.000-08:00

Sarong Party Girls. ( SPG )

defination of SPG (?) ;

a local Asian woman (e.g. Chinese, Malay, Indian) who usually dresses and behaves in a provocative manner, and who exclusively dates and prefers white men

it's obvious, SPG is just a nicer term for SLUT. women have a choice on how they want to carry themselves in public, and i guess people like them just want to make a first impression on others by showing how slutty a bitch they are.

miss izzy

indeed this self-proclaimed SPG has claims to fame like baring her bottom in front of Buckingham Palace during rush hour, and celebrating Singapore’s birthday by clambering up Sir Stamford Raffles’ statue and stimulating a sex act. And having everythings photographed and displayed proudly on her blog.

an attention-seeker in desperate need for attention (?), maybe.

just an act to make her rise to fame quickly (?) maybe.

in the reality tv series ( girls out loud ), she claimed to have became popular because of nude pictures,

hello (?) i wonder why it takes so long for you to realise, if your tits and vagina is sticking out for the rest of the world to see, and you because popular for it, it means that all your blog readers are all sex peverts who are just starting at your naked body just fantasizing and masturbating to your body, cause you're providing free sexual fantasies for them.

( imagines some balding 40 year old man all sweaty and grimy staring at a naked picture of her just wanking away for hours )

and that is defintely the most loserish way to get your blog viewed by more people. you disgust me by just trying so hard to get it going on.

xoxo.

littlemissC